I am guilty of constantly comparing my children. Comparing them to each other, comparing them to other babies their age, comparing them to other babies not their age, etc. I have been doing this to the point that it drives me CRAZY because my girls aren't walking at 6 months or haven't said "mama" yet or are still just rolling around on their backs and tummies rather than trying to get up on their hands and knees and crawl.
In the past few days I have realized something. I need to STOP.
Constantly comparing is not fair to anyone. I think because there are two of them I feel the need to try to compensate for there only being one of me by trying to push them to do things too soon. At three months when they weren't rolling over, I would push them onto their sides and hope that they rolled the other half. I met a lady on a Facebook group called "Utah Valley Moms of Multiples" who has 7 month old twin girls who are both already walking with the assistance of those little toy shopping carts! When I learned that, I thought Oh my gosh, Aria & Cadence have so much to catch up on!!!
But as I've thought more and more about it, they are so ahead in other aspects of their lives. They are only 6 months old and are both getting 2 teeth on top which brings their tooth count to a grand total of 4 for each of them. They are eating solids like champs and have eaten a variety of things from pears to guava to squash and even mango while other older babies we know are still exclusively on formula or breastmilk. And finally, they sleep for eleven hours straight each night which is one of my very favorite things.
If I compared all the things Aria & Cadence are still working on to all the awesome things other babies can do, then they'll never measure up. But considering all the SUPER awesome things they can do, they really do exceed the bar.
I love these girls so much and am so proud of them.
They are growing and learning at their own pace and that's good enough for me.
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